When we first sat down yesterday to write this post, our intent was to create a blog post that would provide all of you expecting mamas with a comprehensive guide to preparing you for having a baby, especially for the first time moms out there. However, after going back and forth we realized that was going to be very difficult to do, because the truth of the matter is that there is no one single “right” way. So what we decided to do instead was to communicate that the most important thing to have when you are preparing for your little one to come into the world is to trust yourself and have confidence that your natural instincts and motherly intuition, honed day in and day out through the small and large efforts you make, will be just PERFECT whether or not they are listed in some top 10 guide on the internet. Because no matter who you are, or where you are at in the world, or where you may be years from now, you are the only person that will ever truly be your little ones mother. Only you!
It also helps to put things in context. However overwhelming this new life is for you, it’s bound to be just as, if not more overwhelming for your little one. Regardless of all the good advice in the world coming from your mom, your friends, their friend, and your doctors, ultimately you need to find your own way and build the confidence in yourself to trust that you can make the right decisions that will be best for your baby. As you learn to be sensitive to your baby’s needs and wants, he or she will help guide you through this new life of motherhood.
One of the most difficult parts of being a new mom will be the lack of sleep. Try and keep in mind that although it will be hard, it will not kill you - you will survive and there will come a point in time where you'll be back to a regular sleeping schedule. While it may be tough to get by without a full night´s sleep, it will be important to try and squeeze in little naps where you can, whether you do it when your baby is sleeping, or have your partner take the baby for a little while. Occasionally, you may be able to have someone else take the night shift, and that full nights’ sleep will do wonders for you.
Another thing not often spoken of is Post Partum Depression. Always remember that you are not alone in this, others have suffered from this before you and others will suffer from it after you and there is help and support out there! Don't be afraid to talk to the people around you and ask for help from the ones closest to you. And if you can, try and get some me-time, even if it’s only 10 minutes to read a magazine or paint your toenails. Most important of all, enjoy this precious time and remember that its a process of trial and error, you will make mistakes but trust your instincts, they will guide you and no one knows your baby better than you. You will become the expert on your baby. And one day, we promise that you will look back at these times as some of the fondest memories of your life. <3